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Mental Health & Friendships

August 16, 2018

This short post comes with a little bit of tough love, but trust me it does come from a place of love.


I am tired of hearing people complain that they aren't mentally well, and nobody is checking in to see if they're okay. Friendships are a complicated thing, and contact will always float in and out. As much as we'd like to say we are all totally selfless people, we're not. We are all here for ourselves and to live our best lives. That means that friendships will come second. Like it or not, that's the truth. 


If you are suffering with your mental health and nobody has checked in on you, consider that they might be busy, or even unwell themselves. Take your life into your own hands and if you need to talk to somebody, don't wait. Spark the conversation yourself, it's as easy as that. People are not mind readers, they may not know how you're feeling, or may have not seen your tweet expressing your struggles. 


It's very important to realise that everybody has their own lives, with their own problems to deal with. It's easy to get into the mindset that once you're unwell everybody should be by your side and only worry about you, but it's just not realistic. 


So, please remember that people aren't bad friends if they haven't made the effort to check in on you. Maybe even think to yourself; have you made the effort to check in on them? Do you know that everything is okay in their life? Try to remember that an outside world exists and that it's possible to support each other along the way. And please, do not isolate yourself.


If you haven't got anybody you feel you can personally reach out to but are looking for support, know that there are always people to speak to. I have linked a few organisations below. 

Samaritans (Emotional support 24/7) - Call 116 123 FREE / Email

SANEline (Specialist mental health support, everyday 4.30-10.30pm) - Call 0300 304 7000 / Textcare / Support Forum

The Mix (Support to young people aged 13-25, 11am - 11pm) - Call 0808 808 4994

Elefriends (Supportive online community where you can be yourself, run by Mind) - Elefriends


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